I SEEK. I SHARE. I SERVE.
This is the essence of my offering. Finding a purposeful and meaningful life.
I coach in awareness, yes. This means that my coaching is done from a place of mindfulness, but also that I can give you the tools and techniques to live more mindfully as well.
But I also connect the dots as I find them - we "teach" what we most need to learn ourselves, right?
So welcome to the place where I gather all my explorations - blog, courses, podcast (in Spanish), images, resources. Let's connect!
The answer is inside. The "way out" is within. I can help.
The aim of life is to live, and to live means to be aware, joyously, drunkenly, serenely, divinely aware. ~ Henry Miller
I’m good at it. Really good at it. Asking questions. It was my signature style since age 4. I wanted to know everything so I asked, and asked, and asked - an endearing trait in a little girl. But it soon got squelched down at school.“Impertinent” was a name thrown at me a lot throughout my primary school years. Such a shame as it dampened my natural desire to question life around me and engage in communication with others on it.
Have you ever hidden in plain sight? We all do it. From childhood. From the time we start hearing “do this or don’t do that to please me / be loved / belong”. Some children and adults rebel. They go and do exactly the opposite. With a pair of balls… as we say in Spain. I used to be ballsy. Up until about 7 years old. Then I caught on that pretending and hiding in plain sight worked really well for me. The rest, as they say, is history.
Well, I can happily report back from the trenches of everyday suburban life that, yes, indeed, mindfulness seems to be working! You'd think a life coach with a website called A Life in Awareness and who "specializes" in mindfulness would have figured this out by now. And that it wouldn't have taken me over 15 posts to crack the code (and more courses, books, and webinars than I care to admit)...
For a few months I've been pondering on the truest meaning of trust. Which is an openness to life. To the good, the bad, and the outright scary. So about this Greek oracle. Last year my family and I were flying back from Denver to London on a big jumbo jet [...] Then came Pythia's voice as clear as you'd expect from the priestess to Apollo at Delphi: "If it's safe, the plane will fly. If it's not safe, the plane will not fly".
Biodanza for me is about joy. Through Biodanza I rediscovered the joy of dancing. The absolute pleasure of shaking my body to the sound of music. Simple. I could do it in my own kitchen as I cook or wash the dishes. I could even do it, in the style of so many films, as I move around my house. But I'd be missing something. I'd be missing human connection. That is what makes Biodanza so special
This post is not about self-pity, bitching about bodily shortcomings, or trying to rally other rosacea-sufferers into action. It's about paying attention to what our body is trying to tell us. Sometimes it can be subtle hints (tiredness anyone?); most often the body needs to scream and shout to get your attention (hmm, in so many ways I can think of!). Or slap you in the face...
A person is said to be in a state of incongruence if some of the totality of their experience is unacceptable to them and is denied or distorted in the self-image. Is this why I embrace so many of my undertakings half-heartedly? There is a very clear, very strong sense of resistance in all of this. Like trying to roll a boulder uphill. Except the boulder is me.
Before we start criticising the criticiser, let's get a couple of things clear. The first one is that an internal critical voice is a necessary part of healthy psychological development. So, you're not a weirdo or a loser for having an overactive inner critic. We all do. The second point is that there really is no personal freedom until we deal with it.
The swearing is optional, but the message is one we can all heed. Be yourself. Be authentic. Make no excuses. Be ware of the need to justify yourself to others. We're aiming for our own integrity and coherence. For the freedom from the shackles of what others think of us, our choices and our opinions.
So list them. Explore them. And then, ask the big question (the one we were after all along...): What am I going to do instead? What would happen if I changed all those can'ts with won'ts? Then they wouldn't be excuses, they would be choices. Ouch. But here's the thing - I would finally take ownership. Because it's by finally coming face to face with my weaknesses that I can become really strong and clear.