My top 10 excuses

My top 10 excuses

So list them. Explore them. And then, ask the big question (the one we were after all along...): What am I going to do instead? What would happen if I changed all those can'ts with won'ts? Then they wouldn't be excuses, they would be choices. Ouch. But here's the thing - I would finally take ownership. Because it's by finally coming face to face with my weaknesses that I can become really strong and clear.

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I'll like your post if....

I'll like your post if....

Yesterday I posted my first ever "presentational video" on a Facebook coaching mentoring group (as opposed to, say, a video of my son doing impromptu Scottish country dancing in the street). In an effort to put awareness to practice in an everyday activity (posting on social media), I paid close attention to: a) my feelings, b) my intentions, and c) how much freaking time I wasted throughout the day checking to see the progression of likes, comments, and composing replies.

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Being vs. doing - the great divide

Being vs. doing - the great divide

Modern life is all about doing and having: our sense of self, our self-esteem, how we are perceived and valued by others. Although most people, when asked, would say that what is crucial is who you are, how this is practically defined is all about what you spend your time, skills, and attention doing. Although most of us say 'just be yourself', there are few of us who can simply say 'just be' (and mean it!).

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Parenting in Awareness

Parenting in Awareness

Our best parenting teachers are our children. We don’t teach them, they teach us.

Every day they hold up a mirror to us and reflect back what we give them. They are great masters of consciousness. Little Buddhas of enlightenment. Prophets of awareness. Gurus of mindfulness. Yes, even when they are inconsolable. Even when they scream. Or throw things on the floor. But to write about parenting is to invite conflict.

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AWARENESS EMBODIED (THERE’S A BODY IN THERE)

AWARENESS EMBODIED (THERE’S A BODY IN THERE)

If we let our emotions course through our body, as they are designed to do, we wouldn’t need the mind doctors so much. This is easy to say. Very hard to do. Because all of us, in the current era of mind dominance, have been taught from a very early age that feelings need to be kept in check, especially the negative ones.

Hold on. There are no negative emotions. All emotions are created equal. All have their use.

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