For a few months I've been pondering on the truest meaning of trust. Which is an openness to life. To the good, the bad, and the outright scary. So about this Greek oracle. Last year my family and I were flying back from Denver to London on a big jumbo jet [...] Then came Pythia's voice as clear as you'd expect from the priestess to Apollo at Delphi: "If it's safe, the plane will fly. If it's not safe, the plane will not fly".Read More
A person is said to be in a state of incongruence if some of the totality of their experience is unacceptable to them and is denied or distorted in the self-image. Is this why I embrace so many of my undertakings half-heartedly? There is a very clear, very strong sense of resistance in all of this. Like trying to roll a boulder uphill. Except the boulder is me.Read More
Before we start criticising the criticiser, let's get a couple of things clear. The first one is that an internal critical voice is a necessary part of healthy psychological development. So, you're not a weirdo or a loser for having an overactive inner critic. We all do. The second point is that there really is no personal freedom until we deal with it.Read More
The swearing is optional, but the message is one we can all heed. Be yourself. Be authentic. Make no excuses. Be ware of the need to justify yourself to others. We're aiming for our own integrity and coherence. For the freedom from the shackles of what others think of us, our choices and our opinions.Read More
So list them. Explore them. And then, ask the big question (the one we were after all along...): What am I going to do instead? What would happen if I changed all those can'ts with won'ts? Then they wouldn't be excuses, they would be choices. Ouch. But here's the thing - I would finally take ownership. Because it's by finally coming face to face with my weaknesses that I can become really strong and clear.Read More
Yesterday I posted my first ever "presentational video" on a Facebook coaching mentoring group (as opposed to, say, a video of my son doing impromptu Scottish country dancing in the street). In an effort to put awareness to practice in an everyday activity (posting on social media), I paid close attention to: a) my feelings, b) my intentions, and c) how much freaking time I wasted throughout the day checking to see the progression of likes, comments, and composing replies.Read More
Have you ever stopped to ponder what really lies at the bottom of courage? Why some people just seem to get on with it, whilst other dilly-dally, procrastinate, or always seem to have valid reasons why they cannot advance or it takes them so long? Do you know what makes a brave person brave? Action.Read More
I can't get energised about anything because there is very little in my to do list that is actually mine (or for reasons that are exclusively mine). Wow. I'm in my early forties and there's very little of me in my life. How the f*** did that happen?
If we let our emotions course through our body, as they are designed to do, we wouldn’t need the mind doctors so much. This is easy to say. Very hard to do. Because all of us, in the current era of mind dominance, have been taught from a very early age that feelings need to be kept in check, especially the negative ones.
Hold on. There are no negative emotions. All emotions are created equal. All have their use.Read More