Can I make a living out of asking questions?

Can I make a living out of asking questions?

I’m good at it. Really good at it. Asking questions. It was my signature style since age 4. I wanted to know everything so I asked, and asked, and asked - an endearing trait in a little girl. But it soon got squelched down at school.“Impertinent” was a name thrown at me a lot throughout my primary school years. Such a shame as it dampened my natural desire to question life around me and engage in communication with others on it.

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I don’t want to play housewife anymore

I don’t want to play housewife anymore

Have you ever hidden in plain sight? We all do it. From childhood. From the time we start hearing “do this or don’t do that to please me / be loved / belong”. Some children and adults rebel. They go and do exactly the opposite. With a pair of balls… as we say in Spain. I used to be ballsy. Up until about 7 years old. Then I caught on that pretending and hiding in plain sight worked really well for me. The rest, as they say, is history.

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It's working!

It's working!

Well, I can happily report back from the trenches of everyday suburban life that, yes, indeed, mindfulness seems to be working! You'd think a life coach with a website called A Life in Awareness and who "specializes" in mindfulness would have figured this out by now. And that it wouldn't have taken me over 15 posts to crack the code (and more courses, books, and webinars than I care to admit)...

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I once overheard a Greek oracle on a plane

I once overheard a Greek oracle on a plane

For a few months I've been pondering on the truest meaning of trust. Which is an openness to life. To the good, the bad, and the outright scary. So about this Greek oracle. Last year my family and I were flying back from Denver to London on a big jumbo jet [...] Then came Pythia's voice as clear as you'd expect from the priestess to Apollo at Delphi: "If it's safe, the plane will fly. If it's not safe, the plane will not fly".

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The joy of shaking your booty

The joy of shaking your booty

Biodanza for me is about joy. Through Biodanza I rediscovered the joy of dancing. The absolute pleasure of shaking my body to the sound of music. Simple. I could do it in my own kitchen as I cook or wash the dishes. I could even do it, in the style of so many films, as I move around my house. But I'd be missing something. I'd be missing human connection. That is what makes Biodanza so special

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Uncovering incongruence

Uncovering incongruence

A person is said to be in a state of incongruence if some of the totality of their experience is unacceptable to them and is denied or distorted in the self-image. Is this why I embrace so many of my undertakings half-heartedly? There is a very clear, very strong sense of resistance in all of this. Like trying to roll a boulder uphill. Except the boulder is me.

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Can you tell Mara to shut up?

Can you tell Mara to shut up?

Before we start criticising the criticiser, let's get a couple of things clear. The first one is that an internal critical voice is a necessary part of healthy psychological development. So, you're not a weirdo or a loser for having an overactive inner critic. We all do. The second point is that there really is no personal freedom until we deal with it.

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My top 10 excuses

My top 10 excuses

So list them. Explore them. And then, ask the big question (the one we were after all along...): What am I going to do instead? What would happen if I changed all those can'ts with won'ts? Then they wouldn't be excuses, they would be choices. Ouch. But here's the thing - I would finally take ownership. Because it's by finally coming face to face with my weaknesses that I can become really strong and clear.

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